tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3132582821010486689.post5550186579495871543..comments2024-03-27T07:18:58.033+00:00Comments on Frances Garrood: Saying it with flowersFrances Garroodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10614916006798375706noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3132582821010486689.post-44123103481309481442011-08-26T11:36:22.296+01:002011-08-26T11:36:22.296+01:00Thanks, Alan. I think you put that very well. And ...Thanks, Alan. I think you put that very well. And drinks are never a waste of money!Frances Garroodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10614916006798375706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3132582821010486689.post-78473717960682672862011-08-26T11:06:07.386+01:002011-08-26T11:06:07.386+01:00I do agree with you. The problem with charitable d...I do agree with you. The problem with charitable donations in place of things that "are a waste of money" is that the definition of what is a waste of money is being provided by a third party. When the dreadful time comes everyone at the pub can have a free drink on me, which no doubt is a waste of money.Alan Burnetthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01015127443616786425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3132582821010486689.post-19168734305683012242011-08-26T10:13:47.748+01:002011-08-26T10:13:47.748+01:00Librarian - I'm so sorry about your husband; s...Librarian - I'm so sorry about your husband; so recent, too. But lovely about the flowers.<br /><br />Patsy, I suppose in a way all flowers a a bit of a waste since they last for such a short time and are so expensive, but there's something about them...<br /><br />English Rider, what a lovely idea!<br /><br />Judy, your mother sounds lovely! If I'm ever wealthy* enough, I'll get truckloads of flowers delivered to the house every week, (and of course give thousands to charity, too!).<br />*In spite of my recent post (below) this is unlikley to happen!<br /><br />Rosemary, I'm glad you agree. And yes. I think both options should be available (though I think hte donations to charitything must be relatively recent?).Frances Garroodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10614916006798375706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3132582821010486689.post-32192480851003897762011-08-26T09:29:02.490+01:002011-08-26T09:29:02.490+01:00Sad to hear about your aunt/godmother, Frances. Ha...Sad to hear about your aunt/godmother, Frances. Have to agree about the flowers, although it's probably good when both options are allowed since many will prefer to give a donation. <br /><br />I've never thought about it in relation to myself (yet!) but, yes, I'd like to think there were lots of flowers.Rosemary Gemmellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09311840205603508422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3132582821010486689.post-49795055823509649702011-08-26T05:23:40.631+01:002011-08-26T05:23:40.631+01:00Frances, so sorry to hear about the loss of your a...Frances, so sorry to hear about the loss of your aunt. :( <br /><br />I was brought up with a mom who taught me that if I only have R10 left in the world I must spend R5 on food and R5 on flowers...the first to feed my body, the second to feed my soul.<br /><br />So sending a beautiful bunch of fresh flowers is my choice, although I'd send a donation as well, if one was asked for. Even though the flowers fade and die over time, that's kind of a symbolic comfort too. (Death comes to all living things; it's part of the cycle)<br /><br /><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Judy-Croome/e/B00512MXM0/ref=ntt_athr_dp_pel_1" rel="nofollow">Judy, South Africa</a>Judy Croome | @judy_croomehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17455755011354905278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3132582821010486689.post-4074416150542726512011-08-26T02:04:35.766+01:002011-08-26T02:04:35.766+01:00When my mother died, we had all of her favorite fl...When my mother died, we had all of her favorite flowers and I ordered gardenia corsages for each of her four sisters, to wear and take home afterwards. It was as though they had been to one last dance party together.English Riderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01712384532126551307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3132582821010486689.post-57250503327579499482011-08-25T20:05:06.638+01:002011-08-25T20:05:06.638+01:00I do think it seems a bit of a waste to buy funera...I do think it seems a bit of a waste to buy funeral flowers and usually make a donation myself. But if buying flowers brings even a little comfort at a difficult time, then doing so isn't really wasteful - and as you say, it's your money and your choice.Patsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12263765378083045973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3132582821010486689.post-65762767597549404452011-08-25T19:45:13.314+01:002011-08-25T19:45:13.314+01:00When my husband died 1 3/4 years ago, I was so gra...When my husband died 1 3/4 years ago, I was so grateful for the people at the gardener's who did a beautiful flower display on the top of the coffin for the funeral service. I could not afford to spend a huge amount of money, but they did so well, and it looked so perfect in Steve's favourite colours. Of course, I could say "it was their job, I paid for the flowers, so why feel gratitude?" and yet I did, because it did not look at all cheapskate-ish or shabby.<br />Most of the people who came to the funeral and gave me cards had put money inside the cards, which was indeed very welcome, but I also received some flowers, and my mother-in-law had sent flowers for Steve (she could not travel to Germany for the service because of her health) but also some very beautiful ones with a card that said these were just for me, something I found very touching from her.Librarianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05704656564078750607noreply@blogger.com