I have a small grandson, M, who has suffered bullying on and off ever since he started school. He is a sensitive, bright (has just won 3 scholarships), kind little boy, but hates the rough and tumble beloved of many others and loves adult company. He is not, however, very brave. My daughter has been fighting his corner for years, and is relieved that his time at his school (which has not managed the situation well) is nearly over (yes, he could have moved schools earlier, but she was afraid he might be going out of the frying pan into another, possibly even worse, fire).
Yesterday, one of the teachers gave a talk on bullying; said it was unkind, musn't happen, etc. He then went on to (as far as I can see) see it from the bullies' point of view, by saying that very sensitive children, like M, might be the vicitims of bullies, and had he himself been a bully, he might well have chosen M. Hence, while not endorsing bulling, he was as good as excusing it.
Poor M was utterly bewildered, as the message seemed to be that while bullying is wrong, bullying a quiet, sensitive child like him is understandable.
My daughter is furious. I am furious. Because there is NEVER any excuse for bullying. Reasons, maybe, but excuses, never. I have been a counsellor for many years, and know well about respecting different points of view, but bulling is, pure and simple, unkind, and bullying in any form is wrong, and should be clamped down on. Immediately.
Needless to say, this teacher has recently been on a course.