Tuesday 7 June 2011

Wanted v unwanted hair


I've always rather envied men in the hair department. We women have the delicate problem of "unwanted" hair, whereas all of men's hair seems to be wanted; the more the better (in most cases).

But then, men go bald.

Some of them seem not to mind. A few years ago, my brother went totally bald in a matter of weeks (his hair came back later), and didn't seem to care a jot. He just wore hats. He said that since he couldn't see it, it didn't worry him. Sensible man.

But there is a growing trend (no pun intended) for the restoration of men's hair, the latest celebrity participant being Wayne Rooney. Now, if I were Rooney, I would just buy a a few magnificent hats and forget about it, but he's apparently had a hair transplant. This - according to my source - is a painful, lengthy and very expensive procedure, involving an eye-watering cost of around £2.50 per hair.

Years ago, I had a lovely young (male) client, who asked for counselling because he'd gone bald at an early age. We worked on his self-esteem, which was particularly low, and went we'd finished, he was no longer bothered by his baldness. It seems that it was what was on the inside of his head that was the problem, not the outside.

I'm sure this isn't always the case, but it's a thought. And it's a lot cheaper than that new head of hair.

12 comments:

  1. A lot cheaper, especially when the transplant doesn't work as it didn't with my hubby's cousin who had to have all his transplanted hair removed because of complications. Husband, who has always had a magnificent thick hair, has recently started going bald...it doesn't bother him a jot, because he is very comfortable in his own skin.

    I won't say a word about Wayne Rooney (I might get rude tweets from his wife!) :-o

    Judy, South Africa

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  2. I've always understood that baldness is a result of oodles of testosterone and that bald men are therefore ultra sexy.

    Come to think of it, I seem to remember it might have been a man who told me that.

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  3. I believe that men with big feet peddle a similar rumour.

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  4. I will still love my much beloved with and without his hair. There are worst things to lost, your mind, eyes, hearing, speech, your ability to walk etc.

    I know it would be hard to come to terms with, but if it was a choose from the list above I think my hair would be the first on my list.

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  5. Judy, I very much doubt whether Mrs. Rooney reads this blog!

    Gail, it was probably a bald man who told you that.

    Colette, are you sure it's his feet he was referring to?

    Jarmara, I agree. My best friend is blind, my sister can't walk, I have a deaf uncle...it makes hair seem rather unimportant, somehow.

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  6. I agree with Jamara. There are far worse things to lose - and I speak as a woman with hair loss. Mine started falling ou a few years ago so I went the wig route and now have extra writing time - no shampooing, cutting, dyeing, blow-drying. Not sure about having too much testosterone though, or me being ultra-sexy now :-)

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  7. I can't look at Elton John without thinking he'd look a lot better without his hair transplants. Although maybe it's the way he arranges his fringe that bothers me.

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  8. It seems a shame that some men feel the need to fight against nature that way (and I guess we women do that in other ways!), as most men who embrace their baldness actually look pretty good.

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  9. Lynne, you must have thought some of what I said really insensitive. I have had friends (female) who have lost their hair, and I understand that it can be devastating. You sound very up-beat and pragmatic, and I'm so pleased that you can feel like that. But I do apologise.

    Deborah, I feel exactly the same about EJ!

    Deborah, I know some bald men who wouldn't look nearly so attractive if they had hair!

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  10. I meant Rosemary, not Deborah, in the last para - apologies, Rosemary!

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  11. Frances you never know...maybe Mrs R lurks on your blog a lot! :):)

    And Gail reminded me that two of my childhood heroes were the very sexy Yul Brynner and Tell Savalas; both bald as an egg!

    Judy, South Africa

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  12. Now there's a thought, Judy! Actually, I find bald men (some of them) rather attractive. But I sometimes have an overwhelming urge to run my hands over that lovely smooth scalp, and that might not go down too well...

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